Why Aren't Men In Church?

The Michael Basemen radio show posted a question asking why men aren't in church. A listener said in an article that church is for women and others say its a scam to get your money. Ridiculous in my book! Either response is appalling. The article says it's degrating to men having another man tell you how to live your life...... Immature comment maybe? I think so. In very area of your life, at all times of your life, there is someone telling you what to do. Parents tell you what to do as well as teachers, bosses, doctors, elderly caregivers, and even funeral directors. Even God leaves you with free will. What does it say about someone who can't accept proper guidance? He who loves correction loves knowledge he who hates correction is stupid. Find that in Proverbs. As far as money goes, this is where the real argument begins. Some places take it too far in my opinion. An ATM in the church Vesta view might be too much but I can deal with that because I may not want to pay my tithes in check or credit. Checking my W-2 is going way too far for me. The church should not turn away the lost or stray because they aren't tithing. That's between them and God. But tithe and offering is commanded by God in the book of Malachi chapter 4 or 6 but I believe 6 verse 8. There is a promise attached to all God commands. Weather you want to give extra for building fund, missions, benevolence, or anything else is at your discretion. Just don't neglect what God commands. The church still has to function. They do more than preach on Sunday and mid-week service. Full time pastors spend loads of hours before God in prayer and fasting to get a word to deliver. They show up at the hospital when you are sick, council you before marriage and marry you, Cristen your children, perform funerals. That is a lot of work. Not to mention they have to attend seminary school and get licensed. Yes they have student loans too. They have bills to pay just like you and I yet they make themselves available to everyone else. Some people expect them to devote all their time to them for free. That isn't fair. The psychiatrist can be paid and living well but a man or woman of God can't? I can't agree with that. Everyone needs to be taken care of. Church is a good place to meet people if you are single or looking for friends to hang out with. There are prayer groups and bible study meetings where you can chat or have an open forum to discuss issues or matters of the heart and find a friend there. Or perhaps you are single, there is a better chance of you finding someone serious about love and settling down there than at a night club. So why don't men come to church? Conviction? Disbelief? Not wanting to be held accountable? Not wanting to pay tithes to keep the church open? Too much structure? We may never know.

Retracting My Helping Hand

Family-
There are those family members you can't get enough of. Then there are those whom make you want a DNA test from to prove relation. I love my aunt. She's good entertainment. Before the moments together end, I know she's going to crack me up. Then there is today. I go out of my way to drive 20 minutes out to pick her up and take her to work an hour away 2 days in a row because her car is busted and she has no means of fixing it. Monday I let her borrow my car altogether. Thursday too. She complained about getting gas at $20 a pop twice in a week!
There was no consideration of the mileage she is accumulating on my car and the fact that I have to travel by foot or public transportation without my car that was never meant to get her from destination to destination but me instead. She didn't even recall that I had just put gas in my car before I let her borrow it Monday. I have errands to run but still she complains.
We are double tripping twice a day for her connivance not mine. She isn't insured on my car. Why is she complaining about gas she would have ultimately put in her own car provided it was up and running. The nerve of some people. I will not be taken advantage of. She has today to cool off but my birthday is Friday the 21st. She better not complain again. I don't travel more than 3 miles from my home to run errands so it is she who is burning the gas. I don't understand her frustration.
What do you do when your help is unappreciated? A big part of me wants to lay her out. The respectable part of me will just keep quiet. She is still my aunt which is an authoritative figure. I shouldn't argue with her. She probably won't apologize. I will have to retract my helping hand because she thinks its owed. Its not. I don't have to help her. Trouble is, how do I do that without the argument after?
What happened to adults having manners and just saying thanks. You have to pay for a cab; why not pay for gas when borrowing some one's car?