Sins Of the Previous Love

You ever have a guy tell you that you are punishing him for something someone else did?
One of my best friends had that conversation with a co-worker. She didn't know how to respond but she knew that wasn't the case. I concur and I'll tell you why.
I often see women react instead of act. There is always an action from their man that causes a reaction. Women analyze things deeply and pay attention to every detail. If your on a date and you phone is on vibrate or silent but you keep getting calls, a woman will think like this: "Only a woman will call back to back like that unless it's an emergency and men don't have emergency calls from anyone other than their mom or child. He keeps ignoring the call so it's not an emergency but someone or woman wants his attention. I know it for a fact because this was the case with 3 other boyfriends and it happened the same exact way". See fellas? When you think they are just jealous or dwelling on the past, its really a matter of you having the same behavior as a previous lover. You're not that guy but you're acting just like him. We aren't as blind as you would like us to be.
When a woman is punishing you for something another man did, it's usually her father not a boyfriend although it does happen that way sometimes and it usually shows in the way of a gold digger. A gold digger is after your money because she watched her father leave her mother penniless and she had to work hard to provide for her children or she had a boyfriend who manipulated her into being a cash cow and abused her emotions and generosity. If you are dating a trophy, this is highly likely.
If you are in a relationship with a lady who suspects you of cheating and you have no time to cheat, your phone isn't always ringing, she already knows your social network and personal friends, etc. yet, you are still a suspect... then you have a different problem. You are giving someone other than her your peak time and inner-most thoughts or something that you don't give to her. If you tell you're mother or a friend everything but keep the conversation with her very vague, you will be a suspect in some cases. Even if you have a therapist you tell it all to but not to her, she will feel you don't trust her and if she feels that way, she will be thinking you trust someone else. Those parts of you belong to her by title alone if nothing else. That's not a punishment - it's a reaction to you withholding parts of yourself, or exuding the attributes of a previous cheater. Be good to each other.